Anatomy of an Addiction – Part 3

Just How Many Triggers Can We Have?

Our brain will create for us just as many triggers as we tell it are necessary to ensure we engage in whatever behavior we tell it is important to us.

And how do we tell our brain our porn-seeking behavior is important?

By the amount of time, effort and attention we give to it.

Oh, and also (very important), the amount of pleasure we get from the behavior.

That’s right.  Pleasure is a measure of importance to the brain.  Pleasure is our brain-body system’s way of identifying  positive, life-affirming behaviors.

Think about it for a minute.

Imagine a creature so wired that every time it took action that supported it’s life it received a painful electric shock.

Drink water – Zzzzztttt!!  Eat food – Zzzzzttttt!

Engage is sex – Zzzzzzzzzzttttttttttttt!!!

How long do you think such a creature would survive?  About a week?  Maybe two?

Impossible, to conceive, isn’t it?  Nature would never create such a monstrosity, would it.  Or maybe it did but the poor thing didn’t live long enough to reproduce!

But wait a minute!  Nature has created such a creature and they walk among us every day!  They’re called human beings.

Humans are the only creatures on this earth that I am aware of that can act against their best interests.  That can confuse pleasure with pain and pain with pleasure.

Consider the anorexic girl.

Here is a creature so screwed up in her head she associates pain with eating and pleasure with starving herself.

How long can such a creature live?  Ask Karen Carpenter

Need a better example?  Maybe one closer to home?

Consider the alcoholic or the drug addict.

Two classes of humans who repeatedly, habitually engage in behavior which is guaranteed not to enhance their life but will, in fact, most likely  end it.


The answer is obvious.  Because alcohol and drugs feel good.

What does this prove?

It proves it’s possible for a human being to so screw up their brain-body’s life support system that they end up not enhancing their life with pleasure or protecting their life by avoiding pain, but doing the exact opposite.

Now think about your porn use.  Does the pleasure you’re getting from porn enhance your life and make it better?  Is it bringing you happiness?  Joy? Peace?  Fulfillment?

Or guilt, depression, frustration and despair?

Does it validate and deepen your relationship with that special someone in our life or does it create barriers?

If you’re the person I’m writing this for, I’m going to pick Barriers, Guilt, Frustration and Despair for $2,000, Alex!

The Question Is:  What is Porn Addiction?

So why do you do it?  Why do we do it?

Because it feels good!


But why do we do it to excess?  To the point it brings pain into our lives?

Because it always feels really good!


Shoot! We are sooooooo screwed!

But Wait!  There’s More!

Next, Porn Confusion


About Tom Kaye

I am a writer, speaker, seeker and finder.
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